Category: * Divorce healing
Don’t let divorce bring out the worst in you—avoid turning toxic!
To say that divorce is a nasty time is a serious understatement. Your world is crashing down around you. You’re feeling hurt and betrayed by the person you thought you’d spend the rest of your life with. You’re angry and upset. You sure as hell don’t feel like being mature and understanding right now. Trouble is, […]
Waiting Around For Pain to Heal Won’t Work
One Sunday in November, I sat down in a busy coffee shop in Los Angeles. Four women were sitting alone, each quietly drinking their coffee. I observed their postures, their body language, their facial expressions… their sadness. All of a sudden one woman jumped up, wiped her eyes and dashed off. After a while, the […]
MindBodyGreen: Do You Freak Out Over Every Little Thing? Here’s How To Get Resilient
When you are resilient you have the confidence to let your defensiveness drop and you can truly relax and enjoy life. Remember, you are in complete control of your mind, your feelings and your life. 100% control. Perhaps you just forgot that for a while. We all do sometimes. It is going to take effort to start […]
Does Time Heal? They Say 18 Months – I Say 21 Days!
A survey covered in this Daily Mail article interviewed 155 people and found that breakups take 11 weeks to get over on average. The article also says it takes 18 months to get over a divorce. Actually, I’d say with no good strategy, even breakups take 18 months to heal from. It may take just […]
Got a Gut Feeling? Your Gut Might Cause ALL Your Feelings!
Do you ever get a gut feeling about something? I was fascinated to learn that our gut and the health of our gut plays a huge role in how we feel. Almost as much, perhaps even as much, as our minds do. We spend all our time working our brain and the rest of our body to boost our emotions, […]
Sick of Suffering for Others? Stop Being a Martyr!
How can you give so much but feel so empty and angry? If you’re a martyr, you’re selfish and you’re not giving freely. You tell others you are, but you’re not. And because of this you’re suffering in silence… and causing it all yourself. The motivation of a martyr is to sacrifice themselves for someone else […]
Stop Fixating On Your Ex and Focus On Yourself!
Let me tell you a bit about one of my clients, I’ll call her Molly… Molly came to see me towards the end of 2009. She’d been divorced for six years and in all that time hadn’t stopped obsessing about what her ex-husband was up to. In the beginning, she would talk about only one […]
Stop Saying “I’m Fine” When You’re Not
There are a couple of great untruths in this world: Ticking the box to confirm that you’ve read the Terms and Conditions, telling your kids you’ll help them find the packet of skittles that you ate a few hours ago, and replying “I’m fine” every time someone asks you how you are. This is a […]
Are You Defeated – or Stronger – for Your Trauma?
A young woman went to her mother one day and told her despairingly about her life and how things were so hard for her. She just didn’t know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new […]
Finding Time for Yourself – Taking Your Mind off Divorce
Going through a divorce can be both emotionally and physically exhausting; although recreation may be the least of your worries, finding some time to relax and unwind is highly important. Performing some therapeutic activities is the perfect way to relieve stress and remain physically active during difficult times. Divorce can be financially crippling; however, these […]
