Category: * Divorce healing
How to Survive Christmas Alone: Part One
Christmas is a tough, tough time for the newly single. Ultimately, it’s a holiday that’s all about spending time with family and the people you love, which can feel like a slap in the face when your family unit is splintering or you’re slowly, painfully, falling out of love. Everywhere you look, it seems the […]
Cling On – or let go? Pt3
Okay, we’ve now talked about how your relationship dynamic affects your basic needs to feel safe and secure Part One and your psychological need to feel loved and valued Part Two. But what about the top of the pyramid: self-fulfilment? Self-fulfilment In the grand scheme of things, at least for people from most walks of life, […]
Cling On – or let go? Pt1
They take no notice of me. They don’t support me or show any interest in my job, or my passions, or my interests. They don’t listen. They seem bored when we’re together. I don’t feel they’re proud to be with me. They don’t call or text to see how I’m doing. They’re always too busy […]
Time heals. Really?
Do people keep telling you to give yourself time to heal? That you just need to put some distance between yourself and your trauma? Simply wait for long enough and you’ll feel much better, get over it, and move on. Well… tell them to get stuffed. Time is not a healer Time doesn’t do anything, […]
3 ways you’re dooming a relationship before it begins
Have you been single since what seems like forever – and miserable about it? If so, you may be falling into one of these common self-defeating traps in relationship. 1) You raise the wrong bars too high I’m not suggesting you settle for something or someone that just isn’t right for you. I’ve talked before […]
A Tale of Two Singletons: You Don’t Know What’s Good for You
We all have that amazing friend who’s perpetually single, and we just can’t work out why. You know the type: she’s smart, brilliant, beautiful and tons of fun. She dips her toes in the dating pool – perhaps she’s even the type who always seems to have the next date lined up. And yet, nothing […]
10 Steps to Becoming the Best Version of Yourself
New Year, New You Let’s face it: “New Year, New You” guides tend to be click-bait, fantasy-land nonsense. Every NYE, millions of us decide that, starting from RIGHT NOW, we’re going to be that happy, shiny, confident and all-round perfect human being we always thought we would be. We’ll spend two hours in the gym […]
Still Single and Putting Up with It? You Might Be Hiding a Self-Destructive Secret
If it’s been many months or years since your divorce, have you started dating again? If not, why? Because you genuinely want to be single? Or because you still haven’t healed and recovered from the trauma of the breakup? Because you’re not yet over your ex? When people ask you questions like these, do you get […]
How to Survive Your First Christmas Alone: Part Two
So what now? This is the second part of the series. Haven’t read Part One yet? Click here. Okay, so you pulled up your reindeer-print socks, you got into the Christmas spirit (cabinet), you surrounded yourself with awesome friends and family until Boxing Day — perhaps you even scored a cheeky kiss on New Year’s Eve. […]
How to Survive Your First Christmas Alone: Part One
Christmas is a tough, tough time for the newly single. Ultimately, it’s a holiday that’s all about spending time with family and the people you love, which can feel like a slap in the face when your family unit is splintering or you’re slowly, painfully, falling out of love.
Everywhere you look, it seems the world is rubbing your nose in it. You’re surrounded by images of happy, loved-up couples, festive romantic comedies, adverts reminding you to buy a perfect present for that “special person” in your life. Not to mention the prospect of sitting through Christmas dinner with that emotionally defective great-aunt who can’t help asking intrusive questions about your divorce. What a minefield.
