Category: * Emotions
Trying to Score Against Your Ex vs Focusing on Winning the Overall Game
Chess is a game of strategy and tactics. It’s a game in which you take out your opponents pieces until you capture them all and then attack their king. This is in no way what break ups or divorce should ever be about; yet sadly enough it is the reality of so many couples today. […]
Death vs. Divorce: Why is there more shame around divorce?
A question of compassion I stumbled across an interesting question recently when someone asked, “Why don’t people show the same compassion towards divorce as they do to death?” That question is on a very fine line between right or wrong; yet it is nonetheless a question that can present a variety of different views when […]
Instant Gratification Part 2: What’s Best for Me?
This article is a follow on from part 1. Read that here What is instant gratification? As human beings we tend to become fascinated by ourselves and our stories. We may allow ourselves to become too self-indulgent and it can be destructive. As long as we recognise the vision of where we want and need to be […]
Instant Gratification vs. Long Term Strategy: What’s Best?
Instant versus incremental Instant rewards and instant healing has a much nicer ring to it than the two combined words of long term. However, if waiting for a particular amount of time will help you further along in the long run, it stirs the question of whether waiting is more worthwhile. But how do you determine what works best […]
No Fault Divorce – What This Means to Us
What is no-fault divorce? The UK laws of divorce have not been reformed since their introduction in 1969. However, there was a move and introduction to no–fault divorce shortly after 1970. No-fault divorce is a divorce in which the dissolution of a marriage does not require a showing of wrong-doing by either party. Laws providing for no-fault […]
War of the Roses – the acrimonious divorce
The War of the Roses was a civil war in England. The thirty years of warfare were even more destructive to England than the Hundred Years War had been in the previous century. With the petty disputes that occur between partners during a divorce these days, it seems necessary to title this article such. One in […]
“I’M NOT READY YET” The Price for Suffering
I’m not ready” A very common phrase we ALL use. A case of: Not being prepared for what one is about to do or experience; Not equipped or supplied with what is needed for some act or event, Not prepared for immediate movement or action. What can be debated is; whether being “Ready” is a […]
Your divorce: Are you an Eeyore or a Tigger?
I remember my first Pooh bear book when I was a kid. I loved it to death and pawed at the pages on a daily basis. I was so in love with the characters that when it came time to find ways to earn money for my school as a debutante, I even wrote and […]
How to stop getting hooked by your ex!!
Manage your communication with your ex Establishing some ground rules… (it’s all ABOUT Buckets and Spoons :)) Allow them to vent – YES, actually LET them lose it whilst you file your nails (in your mind) Channel a powerful person (time for Queen Latifah to come out) Get a scripted answer to your issue Master […]
The Ex-Factor – ex-etiquette, whether or not you have children!
Ex-Etiquette where there are no children involved Divorce without children If your divorce does not involve children from the marriage or the relationship, there is technically no reason to maintain contact with your ex. That’s the good and the bad news. The good news is that you won’t have to deal with your ex again. […]
